Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Straight Marriage, Gay Marriage

Find a beautiful younger woman, and a marriage of 30 years means squat. I find it interesting that the king of a media empire that sometimes rails against gay marriage treated the institution of marriage like rubbish.

It's funny how homophobes claim marriage is a fragile sacred cow that can't be changed, when some of them, especially the rich and powerful, change it at the drop of a hat whenever it suits them. I am reminded of Newt Gingrich, who divorced his wife while she was in the hospital with cancer. Lots of class, Jack. I'd never do that to my partner. These guys could learn about loyalty and morality from a gay couple. It is ironic that they have so much influence on whether gay couples get the right to marry.

It is a strange thing to have so many irons in the fire of an enormous political debate trumpeted throughout the media. If gay marriage becomes the law of the land, then I win big. Many of the problems that loom great before me will resolve. If it remains under ban, then I lose big, or rather, continue losing like I always have. Even my life expectancy is tied to the question of gay marriage, because marriage brings so many legal and financial benefits. The idea of lifelong monogamy does not worry me in the least--as a matter of fact, it would be my choice without marriage, and is my choice.

I suppose the argument that runs against gay marriage is thus: abandon your lover and find some poor desperate woman, make believe that you love her, and marry her instead. That was indeed the chosen remedy of some gay men in the past. Is it fair to the woman? I don't think so. I don't think it's a good idea for either partner. It is likely that one or both partners in a sham marriage are going to fool around on the side.

I don't understand the reason for trying to push human reproduction at a time when the population is so great already. Homosexuality is a blessing in an overpopulated world. If I looked around me and saw not enough people, then I'd get with a woman and try to make more. But that's not the case. The situation is the opposite.

I think people are insane to insist on only one path in sexuality. Here's a whole group of people willing to voluntarily excuse themselves from the reproductive cycle (*in most cases). Seems like a godsend. I do think gays were sent by God, if there is a God, and I think they are a solid benefit to society, especially in today's world. People should count the benefits, rather than imagine costs.

It is difficult for me to discuss with people other than friends an issue that is so close to my personal welfare. I have so much at stake. I am tempted to consider those who oppose gay marriage to be my enemies, because they are accomplices to the legal mechanisms that inflict suffering upon me. I try to remind myself that such people lack empathy and understanding. The issue does not effect them personally. It is an opportunity for them to wield power against others, and I just happen to be an other, and my otherness is an accident of fate. There is something in the human psyche that delights in inflicting suffering upon others. The same element is to be found in many other issues, not just this one.

However, those that lack empathy and understanding do not escape from their deeds and their words unscathed. Such behavior will also manifest in their relations toward their own, and there comes what has been termed karma or divine punishment.
Karma or divine punishment feels wrong to me as a philosophy, though.

The closest approximation to truth seems, to me, that humankind forms one organism, as our cells together form one body. So if a human being harms another, it is like a cancerous growth, a cell that went berserk and needs to be removed by the body's immune system. If too many humans harm others, then the body is diseased and needs surgery, or it may even die. The overall health and improvement of the body is the most important thing. I feel this most of all when I am lying in bed at night, that there is a deeper meaning to life than just what is perceived in everyday life. I feel that things are okay somehow.

It is difficult to fully accept individualism, because life is brief and sometimes without much meaning or higher purpose. Many individuals are sacrificed with no apparent rhyme or reason. I may be sacrificed too, or you the reader for that matter. So that is why I think we may be small units within a much larger entity, rather than separate and entire within ourselves. I'm not sure how it all works. There is a great mystery about life. I don't think everyday reality is all that there is. And even if it were, we should imagine something else just to amuse ourselves.
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